Advertisement Meredith There are real people online over age 40.
People ask me all the time whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men. But I tell them that I help men by helping women who are dating after 40. ) One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.
Here are some of the types of women men deal with as they date and relate.
As a dater after 40, knowing this will help you as you meet and connect with men.
The Princess is confident, well put together, and very attractive. She still follows “The Rules” and requires that her man do what she wants, when she wants. She’s a scorekeeper, and she alone decides when he’s given enough to satisfy her…or when he hasn’t and is history.
The Princess has an “I deserve it” attitude and has little or no concern for how she can make the other person happy.
This “I’m never going to find a good relationship” gal leaves men unable to get any traction during courting or in a relationship.
(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.) The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life.
I know you want to meet someone who’s 40-ish, but it might be a 33-year-old friend who knows your match. Maybe I sound pathetic, but I’ve just started going out and doing things I like to do by myself.
Maybe that 33-year-old friend will turn out to be your match. At some point maybe I’ll run into someone decent, but if not, I had fun anyway.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the Pinger, the Couch Potato and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men also meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
In my own life, I’ve learned that having close friends of different ages helps me feel like less of an outlier among my peers, and reminds me that I can wind up sharing plenty with someone, even if they’re in a different phase of life. ANN_IN_BOSTONI met the love of my life online last year and I am 52. Online dating should not be your sole or even primary focus, but to rule it out is to cut off one of the primary ways people in their 40s and 50s meet. Live your life, keep all options open, make yourself happy in the meantime. In my experience, you’ve just got to keep contacting people, and hope for a connection. Not much better from a male’s point of view — i.e., some women are reluctant to give their phone number.