However, it wasn’t particularly arduous or awful finding each other and we fit pretty well.And from my last relationship to my current one, I actually dated exclusively two different guys for one month each that I met online, too. So, for what they’re worth, here are my (obviously very heteronormative) strategies for the rest of you frustrated online daters:1.I’d like to think when it comes to this online dating thing, I’m doing something right! If you’re looking for a pair of black skinny jeans in a size 10, don’t go home with a denim skort. I was really, really, specific and honest about who I am and what I’m looking for.If I had to sell myself, I knew I had to do it honestly.Underneath it I wrote the caption, “This is what I look like without makeup.” And you know what? I put a lot of thought into writing my profile and it showed.However, my general consensus of how the average dude uses an online dating site is he looks at pictures to see if he’s attracted to her and then scans the profile for red flags.If saying I’m a feminist or saying I enjoy sex are dealbreakers, then I don’t want to date that person, anyway. A guy once told me me — and this is true — that women tend to post the best-looking, hottest pictures of themselves on their profiles.So this guy assumed the photo where she looks “done up” might be closest to what she looks like, say, on Saturday morning and it was the one he paid the most attention to.
That didn’t stop more than a few men in their late 30s, 40s and even 50s from contacting me. But I just deleted or blocked them without apology. Online dating is never going to be a day at Disney World, especially after you’ve been doing it awhile.
understand why online dating gets a bad rap: it takes away the fun of the “meet-cute” and forces you to judge, based on very little information, whether you want to take risks with someone else’s neuroses and perversions.
There have been online dates I’ve been on over the past four years, such as with the 9/11 conspiracy theorist, that I’ve hated, too.
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Armed with this information, I posted a picture of myself wearing no makeup on my profile.