Older men have a huge blind spot when it comes to age.They refuse to even consider women their own age, even if she’s fit and attractive.I agree with everything Evan says and based on your advice Evan Ive tweaked my profile with your suggestions e.g. Most importantly I agree your photos have to be great.I chose to adjust my age down a few years since I was being eliminated by what seems like half the men my age when I put my real age.Worse, they’re hypocritical about it, because they don’t understand why the vast majority of younger women won’t go for them.And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50 market. More people have computers and are aware of someone who found love online.I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me?If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.
When I have emailed some of those guys, I never hear back.Ive asked some of the guys my age who have contacted me as an “exception” about their success with their age range search.It is often 10-20 years younger than them and these are very “average” appearing guys .More unhappy couples are getting divorced when the kids leave the house. We also know that dating online does not mean that you’re not dating men you meet in real life. If you meet a guy through friends, at the market, at a concert, great.Having a profile on isn’t going to keep you from doing that.
I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.